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Cheat Day
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Cheat DayCheat Day does not refer to a diet where you indulge in your favorite comfort food, it means something different.  If your husband is cheating maybe you will settle for comfort food or do something about it, either way it’s cheat day right? The Day before Valentines Day, unfortunately, is cheat day.  I say this because it’s the day where cheating husbands play in both worlds of family life and life away from the spouse.  The Urban dictionary defines it as Mistress Day.

Cheat Day Agenda

Married men know that on February 14th, they had better to be making an effort to have a preplanned night out with their wife. It has become an expectation, and uneasy day to the husband who ignores the holiday. However, for the man who has a little, something on the side, she is often unhappy and jealous of the fact that she is not going to get attention on this day.  So to set the mistress at ease  these men try to make the other woman happy by spending the evening before Valentine’s Day with her.
No one likes to think about their spouse cheating on them. Nevertheless, if your spouse is cheating, the arrival of Valentine’s Day is one holiday that is hard for cheating lovers to overlook.  While Valentine’s Day itself is reserved for your husband, wife, or significant other, the day before, February 13, can easily be set aside for the “other” person!

Cheat Day abnormalities

So fellow wives if you get the “I have to work late excuse the day before Valentine’s day, and you have noticed skeptical behavior in the past few weeks, you might consider if your spouse is indulging in cheat day and expecting to have is cake too, check the credit card statements for inconsistencies or the bank account for irregular large cash withdrawals. Alternatively, you can call me, and I can run surveillance for you at anytime. Cheating happens all the time not only on the Day before Valentines.   If you want to catch him in the act, please fill out the form below, and I will contact you.


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Missing Person’s Investigations
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The epidemic of missing person’s Investigations in the United States is the scourge of a modern society.  In the age of the internet, supercomputers, connectivity, and CSI, how can there be over 110,000 people whose locations are unknown in the United States? According to

In that same society how can there be an estimated 40,000 unidentified dead throughout the US?  If we accept the premise that the majority, if not all, of these unidentified deceased were reported missing somewhere, we must ask why haven’t these cases (the unidentified and the missing) been linked together?  Where is the missing link between them?

The Apogean Group is proud to say we have a 100% record when it comes to missing persons, and the point of this post isn’t to lecture investigators, It is, however, my intention to share with the professional investigator my perspective.

Missing Person’s Investigations

The fact is that the vast majority of missing person’s Investigations resolve themselves by the return of the missing person, through minimal help by law enforcement (Law Enforcement Professionals are over worked with limited resources for Missing Person’s Investigations).  This fact is both a blessing and a curse, for it leaves many misguided personnel to invest little or no time into the basics of the investigative process, counting on the missing person’s return.  This has had, and will continue to have, dire consequences for the true at-risk missing person’s Investigation cases and the missing person’s family.

Forget what you saw on last night’s episode of CSI!  There are primarily only three scientifically-acceptable ways to identify someone who is either unwilling or unable to identify themselves: fingerprints, dental records, and DNA.  The vast majority, well over 90%, are identified by fingerprints.  But, we are not always so lucky. The missing person’s Investigations that have not been identified run the gamut from shooting victims brought to the emergency room, a decomposed body found in an open field, or mummified bodies found on a hillside.  By far, though, the most common and challenging unidentified cases are those that were found months or years after death  (which makes up about 90%),

Fingerprints, dental records, and DNA!  These are the critical minimum records that must be submitted into law enforcement’s searchable databases.  These are the missing links.

Shockingly, missing persons records across the United States include these identifiers at the following rates:

Fingerprints – Less than 1%
Dental Records – About 4%
DNA – Much less than 1%

There are several factors that make missing person’s investigations a challenge, but there are a few guidelines I go by to ensure success of each and every case.  Due to the nature of the content it’s my bread and butter so I do not want to divulge all of my secrets;  however I will share one; a close examination of routine, can give you a lot of insight into why a person goes missing.  Just recently you may of heard of a missing person’s investigation in Plano Texas.  Within two days after careful examination combined with ability I found the missing person in under 2 days.  I am not tooting my own horn here, rather trying to prove a point about someone’s routine, in this case it was a major factor.

If you know of a missing persons and have information leading to a missing person, or have a loved one that is missing in Texas contact The Apogean Group leave your information someone will get back to you ASAP our results are 100%

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Reading Nonverbal Communications
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“55 to 80% of All Human Communication is Nonverbal… This an important aspect of Investigations”

PipaulalogolightwpExperts explain that a substantial portion of how we communicate is nonverbal.   Each and every day we respond to hundreds if not thousands of cues and behaviors which include postures, facial expression, eye movements, gestures and tone of voice.  Investigation depends on being able to read these nonverbal gestures as well as how you dress, shake a hand.  These nonverbal gestures give off details and reveal who we are and really impact how we relate to other folks.

Science research on nonverbal communication began with the 1872 writings and publications of Charles Darwin’s The Expression of of the Emotions in Man and Animals.  Obviously since that time there has been abundance of research on the types, effects and expressions of unspoken communications and behavior.  Nonverbal communication signals are so subtle that every day people are not consciously aware of them.   There are several different types of nonverbal communication as it relates to investigative work.

A Private Investigator reads Nonverbal Communication

In many cases, people communicate information in nonverbal ways using groups of behaviors. For example, we might combine a frown, rubbing of the nose or rolling of the eyes with crossed arms and unblinking eye gaze to indicate disapproval or contempt


1. Facial Expression

Facial expressions are responsible for a huge proportion of nonverbal communication. Consider how much information can be conveyed with a smile or a frown. While nonverbal communication and behavior can vary dramatically between cultures, the facial expressions for happiness, sadness, anger and fear are similar throughout the world.

In the image below  Michelle Obama showing a clear and classic nonverbal display of contempt towards Mr. Boehner.  Note the left unilateral snarl with mid face tension, her left lip curling up,  Although her eyes look in the direction of the Speaker , her head barely turns toward him.

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The next is a chart that displays the Seven Common Facial Expressions

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2. Gestures

Deliberate movements and signals are an important way to communicate meaning without words. Common gestures include waving, pointing, and using fingers to indicate numeric amounts. Other gestures are arbitrary and related to culture.

In this next example you will see an number of nonverbal gestures

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3. Paralinguistics (Voice)


Paralinguistics refers to vocal communication that is separate from actual language. This includes factors such as tone of voice, loudness, inflection and pitch. Consider the powerful effect that tone of voice can have on the meaning of a sentence. When said in a strong tone of voice, listeners might interpret approval and enthusiasm. The same words said in a hesitant tone of voice might convey disapproval and a lack of interest.


4. Body Language and Posture

Posture and movement can also convey a great deal on information. Research on body language has grown significantly since the 1970’s, but popular media have focused on the over-interpretation of defensive postures, arm-crossing, and leg-crossing, especially after the publication of Julius Fast’s book Body Language. While these nonverbal behaviors can indicate feelings and attitudes, research suggests that body language is far more subtle and less definitive that previously believed.

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5. Proxemics (Personal Space)


People often refer to their need for “personal space,” which is also an important type of nonverbal communication. The amount of distance we need and the amount of space we perceive as belonging to us is influenced by a number of factors including social norms, situational factors, personality characteristics and level of familiarity. For example, the amount of personal space needed when having a casual conversation with another person usually varies between 18 inches to four feet. On the other hand, the personal distance needed when speaking to a crowd of people is around 10 to 12 feet.

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6. Eye Gaze (Eye Contact )


Looking, staring and blinking can also be important nonverbal behaviors. When people encounter people or things that they like, the rate of blinking increases and pupils dilate. Looking at another person can indicate a range of emotions, including hostility, interest and attraction.









7. Haptics (Touch)


Communicating through touch is another important nonverbal behavior. There has been a substantial amount of research on the importance of touch in infancy and early childhood. Harry Harlow’s classic monkey study demonstrated how the deprivation of touch and contact impedes development. Baby monkeys raised by wire mothers experienced permanent deficits in behavior and social interaction. Touch can be used to communicate affection, familiarity, sympathy and other emotions.  There is also another side to this.  In investigations It is important to realize that within the structure of rapport-based direct questioning, the object is to help the person become comfortable. The proper use of proximal (physical proximity) and haptic (physical contact) techniques reduces psychological barriers and improves rapport.


8. Appearance

Our choice of color, clothing, hairstyles and other factors affecting appearance are also considered a means of nonverbal communication. Research on color psychology has demonstrated that different colors can evoke different moods. Appearance can also alter physiological reactions, judgments and interpretations. Just think of all the subtle judgements you quickly make about someone based on his or her appearance. These first impressions are important, which is why experts suggest that job seekers dress appropriately for interviews with potential employers.

In Investigations paying particular attention changeable features and mannerisms. Some features or traits are not a physical part of the person; they are changeable characteristics. These features may be clothing, hairstyle, use of cosmetics, or any other items that are used by the individual. Most persons use these items and materials rather consistently based on personal tastes; they may reflect the individual’s personality, occupation, or activity at the time of the observation

In Summary Nonverbal communications is just as important in private investigations to get the bigger picture.

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Factors Infidelity
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Marriage or relationships are not easy, things happen, people change or get wrapped up in careers, adult children or a combination of factors occurs, surfacing the just cause of the split.  One of those factors infidelity is an affair –the man; usually admits to having an affair.

In an article Why Long-Married Couples Split by AARP  it outlines high profile marriages and why they last or don’t last.

As suggested in the article high-profile cases of infidelity usually grasp the headlines, but more often than none, it is only the factors infidelity that brings the real problems bubbling to the surface.

In a survey conducted by AARP on the sexuality of people 45 and older found that the affairs happen for only a relatively small number of couples.  It may be a reason, but it is not the root of some marriages failing.  The question remains why so many long-married couples decide to split?

Factors Infidelity

In most cases, the reasons are far less dramatic but the catalyst; infidelity gets the blame.

  • On the Decline for Years
  • Lost Love Interest
  • Issues Intensify
  • Loss of Job
  • Health
  • Children’s lives
  • Personal Ambitions

The above are some of the real reasons and “The Factors Infidelity”  Helped it along.

We have all bought balloons for someone’s birthday at one time, or another brought them home.  We tie them to a chair or the back of the child’s bed.  Over a day or so you notice the balloon starting to lose its lift.  Compare this to a marriage, the helium being an element that holds the marriage afloat.  If the marriage has holes like a porous balloon then the part that keeps the marriage afloat, starts to leak, and the binding element begins to diminish.

At one time or another we always ask the question “What happened” most likely you hear the statement “We grew apart” Although it is a standard cliche it does not mean it is not the common cause of the divorce or separation among long-time married couples.   A sure tail sign of a couple losing helium in the balloon of their relationship is the couple leading separate lives.  i.e., –he gets more and more into his work  -she gets more and more into her children, her adult children, or gets ambitious.

Although the Catalyst of Infidelity might have awoken the real reasons, it is probably a good idea to try to understand the real reasons why couples get divorced.

It is not an open discussion from any angle but if you feel your spouse is stepping outside the vows, and you are in harms way because of it.  It might be a good idea to leave a message. It is confidential, and we understand it is not an easy subject.  The Apogean Team provides a no cost preliminary consultation on the subject.


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